"I guess it comes down to a simple choice really…get bust living, or get busy dying."
- Movie: Shawshank Redemption (1994)
How out are you?
I am 100% transitioned. I am married and she (Samantha) is also 100% transitioned. For the majority of my life I truly never believed that it was possible to live as I do now. But here I am. It took a lot of fortitude but I am finally living on my own terms. It's a fabulous feeling and I love feeling fabulous. :) I transitioned on the job three years ago but have since left that job and got on board with the USPS. So I am the mail lady now! My family is mostly accepting with a couple of notable exceptions and I'm grateful for that.
How do you want to be remembered?
As a loving wife for Samantha, a good Dad for my kids, as a good hard working mail lady. That I had no regrets in life and that I wanted to make a difference for others.
I'm finally able to say that I took some chances, that I could tell the truth, that I could right a wrong, that I spent time with people I love, that I followed my heart and lived most of my passions, that I forgave and moved forward with my head up.
The worst form of regret is regret for the chances and opportunities that we didn't take in life. It's like this, life is fleetingly short and the cost of not following your heart is spending the rest of your life wishing you had. I want to be remembered that I didn't waste time. That I knew that time is free but priceless, and that I can't own it but I can spend it--wisely or unwisely.
How did you hear about the Vanity Club?
Well here I was, a bright green newbie crossdresser at Southern Comfort 2009 and all around me I couldn't help but notice all the sheer fabulousness that I witnessed among the ladies sporting the little white pins. Wow I thought. Thus was my introduction to Vanity Club and from there I began to befriend some of the members. Upon returning home I of course got on my computer and looked into this sorority of amazing transwomen. Considering my beginnings, I soon saw the Vanity Club as a better avenue to explore my own transgender journey and so by observing the membership I learned how to better awaken and focus my life into eventually becoming the person that I am today.